Intimacy in Your Relationships

As time goes on…

In the beginning, marriage seems easy. You build a life with your spouse and everything is new and exciting. Problems come up along the way, but the newness and excitement can combat occasional hiccups in your marriage. However, as time goes on and the day to day pressures get in the way, marriage intimacy can begin to fall by the wayside. If you find yourself in this situation, there are a few tips that can help you get back on track.

One of the problems that can stand in the way of improving your marriage is poor communication. Often times one partner will feel that something is missing or that the problems of their marriage are greater than the joy they get from it. They’ll feel isolated and alone. This can often lead to feelings of guilt when the other partner seems to not feel the same way.

The reality though is that if one partner is dissatisfied, it’s likely the other is as well. Sitting down with your spouse and letting them know that you care deeply about your marriage and would like to see it improved can go a long way. It will open the lines of communication and give your spouse permission to admit their own issues. You might worry that your spouse will be hurt or shocked to learn that you’re not altogether happy. However, you might be surprised to find that they’re actually relieved to hear that you feel the same way.

It Can Be a Team Effort

As you talk to your spouse about the lack of marriage intimacy, work together to remember what brought you together in the first place. Frequently the little things that used to mean so much to you and that used to give you a feeling of closeness to your partner can be forgotten. You stop noticing the positives and only seem to be able to focus on the negative. Taking the time to remember what it is about your partner that made you love them in the first place, and sharing that information with them, can be helpful in several ways.

First of all, it helps your partner to know that you’re still happy with them. Even when problems are looming, even when your relationship changes, knowing that your spouse still loves and cherishes you can be a powerful force that will encourage communication and respect. It’s also true that when your partner knows what they’re doing working, they’ll be in a better position to continue acting in ways that you appreciate.

It’s easy to get so caught up in the day to day grind or the problems that come up that you forget why you married your partner in the first place. Talk to them about what you’re missing, but don’t forget to tell them what you appreciate as well. Spend a quiet evening together reminiscing about the beginnings of your relationship. Get in touch with the passion, love and peace you had when you first began. No matter what issues you need to work on, finding common ground and the roots of your love can be the first step in the direction of improved marriage intimacy.

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If you’re married you know how challenging it can be to maintain an intimate relationship with your spouse.  In this busy world, intimacy and relationships often seem miles apart. Here’s a two-part series on Intimacy, Sex and Spirituality in Marriage that might help.

(Part 1)

Excerpt from The Defining Moment Television Talk Show interview with Dr. & Mrs. Dietrich Seidel, Marriage & Family Enrichment Course Instructors in New York. Hosted by Bret Moss.

(Part 2)

Excerpt from The Defining Moment Television Talk Show interview with Dr. & Mrs. Dietrich Seidel, Marriage & Family Enrichment Course Instructors in New York. Hosted by Bret Moss.