Intimacy in Your Relationships

Love, above all, is the most important factor to keep your marriage alive, as well as to maintain intimacy in your relationship. Show your love for your partner every single day with very simple gestures.

Here’s a sweet gesture. You can post this picture on your fridge to keep you and your partner inspired all throughout the week:

To have a happy relationship, a couple has to keep in mind these 3 major factors: respect, trust and love.   All of these should be present in a relationship to have a loving and long-lasting relationship.  When one factor is lacking, your relationship might suffer as a result.

In the article below, Mary J. Miller discusses these three important factors in detail.  Enjoy reading!

Happy Marriage – How to Make a Relationship Stronger

By Mary J. Miller

When you take a look at some of the happy marriages around you, it’s likely that you’re only seeing part of the picture because the fact is that most of the time, there are lots of things that couples just don’t talk about openly. Sometimes, its the things that couples don’t talk about that can make the most of a marriage and much of the time, couples won’t tell you about it because it’s well – private.

Oh, sure, you might hear a couple of women dishing with each other about their intimate lives, but you don’t get any details and there are lots of innuendos and raised eyebrows, but if you’re trying to get to the meat of the happy marriage, this can feel like walking around in a maze. So, it’s time to decode the “talk that says nothing” and get right down to what happy marriages are about.

Friendship and Respect

Lots of times, you will hear couples talk about how their spouse is their best friend and how they can spend all their time together and that’s just fine with them. This is one of the essential elements of happy marriages. Couples who are truly friends enjoy doing almost anything together, but they respect the fact that each part of the couple has friends, too. In other words, if you are a happily self contained unit, you will function better as a couple because your friends come after your relationship, but there is no possessiveness or jealousy, because you respect each other.

Honesty and Trust

Honesty and trust are an important part of making your relationship stronger and are another essential part of happy marriages all around the world. If you know that there is honesty, then you will be able to trust and you will be able to focus on making your lives as a couple grow and become deeper and more meaningful. It’s always important to make sure that both of you stay honest with one another. No matter how angry your spouse might get about that bounced check or extra pair of shoes or the email from an ex girlfriend, you must stay honest. Happy marriages are happy because both parts of the couple understand that their spouse is honest with them about tough stuff all the time, so the little things are no big deal.

Intimate Relationship

You probably think that all happy marriages are based around intimacy, but intimacy isn’t just about sex. Although this is an amazingly important part of intimacy, you need to know how to take it a step further. Sometimes, as a couple, you might not be completely “in sync” with who wants what when, but if you give a little when you don’t exactly feel like it, then your spouse is likely to do the same for you.

Intimacy also has to do with being able to bare your body and your soul and not being afraid of being ridiculed for any parts of your being. Even if your wife’s post-baby body is a little less attractive to her than it used to be, it’s up to you to let her know that you still find her very attractive. She will do the same for you if your spare tire starts to swell, too.

When you can keep in mind that happy marriages are a balance of many different factors, you don’t have to worry about being short sided or focusing on one part of your marriage and ignoring the rest. Instead, when you work on all parts of your relationship, you can have a well rounded, happy marriage for life. These are some of the factors on how to make your relationship stronger.

Mary Miller provides the information for a happy marriage and how to make a relationship stronger. For a juicy intimate relationship, visit ‘Happy Together Forever’ http://happytogetherforever.com/category/reviews/happy-365/

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Anger exists in a relationship where intimacy has been cultivated.  This is because you become more vulnerable as you get closer to a person; things that might you have considered inconsequential in the past would not be blown out of proportion.  However, understanding your anger can improve the intimacy in your relationship.

We hope you’ll enjoy this article below!

Marriage Counseling, Relationship Understanding; Anger; Intimacy

Anger begins at a point in time after some measure of meaningful intimacy has been cultivated. This is because before any meaningful anger will manifest between us there must be some measure of shared vulnerability….

It’s possible for couples to become less intimate due to the rapid changes in our technology.  As we more often express our feelings through SMS or email our relationships can become less personal and more detached.  Do not let technology hinder you from keeping the intimacy in your relationship alive.

To start with, you can share these lovely and inspiring quotes with your partner.  Enjoy!

Taken from http://www.wondercomments.com

Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation. -  Oscar Wilde

Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends. – Harville Hendrix

What makes a relationship work is having things in common. What makes a relationship passionate are our differences. - Unknown

Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner. -  Amy Bloom

Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another’s heart, or its flame burns low. – Henry Ward Beecher

Do you want all of your relationships to be satisfying, have great communication and an enormous amount of that sweet intimacy we all crave? If so, we understand that it absolutely helps if all parties involved are happy to communicate candidly and are an integral part of maintaining or enhancing the level of intimacy in their relationships. More often though, only one of the people involved are enthusiastic to work through their relationship difficulties. If this is the case in your relationship, you might be asking, then what? Start being the relationship partner you want to have!

Is it that you want more intimacy, caring, and love in your relationship? Of course you do. But what if you’re the only one trying to make it better and you’re starting to notice brick wall every which way you turn. Well then you’re most likely feeling somewhat frustrated by now and probably thinking something like “how can I possibly do this all by myself?”

The answer is conscious communication. If you’re ready and willing to be the example of what you want in a relationship you’re closer to what you want and you think. First, when communicating with your relationship partner start to pay attention to the words you use.

How would you like to hear it?

Try to avoid words that would have you thinking you were being accusing them of something if somebody was saying it to you. As an example, instead of, “I think you just don’t care what I have to say,” merely change your words and say something like, “When we talk about important issues I’d like to make sure that we both are heard clearly and understand what the other person means.” This eliminates any accusations and just focuses on your own hopes and dreams for your relationship. Then when you pick particular issues you’d like to work on, you can begin without either one of you thinking you’re being singled out or blamed. Remember, deed that example of what you want. If you wouldn’t want to be accused of anything out don’t accuse them of anything.

Give and you shall receive

Then, if you would like to be heard about to what’s going on for you the best way to get what you want is to make sure you’re hearing what’s going on for them. Give it to get it. So next time you start a discussion about your intimacy in your relationship, and they immediately begin to get defense, it’s time to stop and listen to them. This kind of defensiveness means something’s going on for them that you are not clearly hearing. If you’re truly interested in understanding what’s really going on for them, they’re much more likely to respond in-kind.

Keeping it self responsible and focusing on what you want instead of on everything that’s bad and wrong with your relationship is another way upsetting an example. This doesn’t mean you need to give up on anything you want, or keep away from deeper issues you might have. It only means that you focused on solutions and looked towards the future, rather than always blaming judging or criticizing about the things that happened in the past.

To illustrate, let’s say you were very disturb about the fact that your significant other didn’t do the grocery shopping with you and they said they would. In the past you might have said, “I hate it when you say you’ll go grocery shopping with me and then don’t.” This type of negative proclamation is more than likely to get your partner’s nose out of joint–and then we guarantee you wouldn’t enjoy their company even if they came. Setting an example means changing this type of statement into something more positive. Try something like, “I would loved it if when you said you would go grocery shopping with me that you followed through, would you be willing to discuss   what prevents you from wanting to go?” it’s always possible to find common ground and discuss these issues in a way that focuses on positive future results, as opposed to complaining about what you hate.

Being a good example of what you want and finding new ways to enhance the intimacy in your relationships isn’t always easy, but it is absolutely possible. Even when your relationship partner seems unwilling to fully get involved, being the example of what you do want is the fastest way we know of to change any situation for the better. When your partner believes they are being as appreciated and respected as you’d like to be and they see you making an attempt they’ll be much more likely to make an effort as well.

To find out about other tips, tools and techniques that will help enhance the intimacy in any of your relationships and to also register for our free weekly tip series about communication and relationship techniques, visit us at: www.NewAgeSelfHelp.com or stop by our website at: www.FocusedAttention.com

They say familiarity breeds contempt; the longer you stay together as a couple, the more likely you would notice his flaws. However, every relationship is a work-in-progress; you have to keep working at it every day to make your relationship grow stronger.

Hazel Palache shares some great tips on how to you can overcome one of the major problems in any couples: how to rebuild intimacy in your relationship.

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Relationships – 7 Steps to Building Intimacy

By Hazel C. Palache

Maybe you’ve been with each other for some time and feel your relationship is not the same anymore! You feel you’re on different wavelengths! You really want the relationship to last yet you’re not sure how to bridge the gap between you and your partner so you can create the intimacy, communication and connection you had when you first met.

If you and your partner are on the same page about this, the following steps will help you to build intimacy and open communication making your relationship much stronger.

1. Talk things out together. Let your partner know what you are thinking and feeling. What it is you want out of life and things you would like to do. Remember that your partner can’t read your mind. They can only give you what you need in the relationship if you communicate.

2. Be open and honest. Don’t waste time and effort trying to play mind games with your partner. You can’t expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, “I’m fine,” it really means you’re fuming inside. Don’t hold in the feelings until they become resentment. Sit down with your partner and without anger or raising your voice start a sentence with “I feel ___when you do___what I really need from you is___.

3. Build trust so it is solid. Trust is what makes a relationship grow and allows intimacy to come into play. Without trust it can be very challenging to build healthy, loving relationships.

4. Date Time. Every couple needs this kind of time, no family, friends or even kids. In order for a relationship to flourish, it needs you to spend special time with each other. This helps the relationship to grow and to flow more smoothly and allows you to continue getting to know more about each other. Have a special day or evening, if possible once a week, if not at least once a month.

Take a trip together. It has been reported that couples who take regular vacations have a happier marriage/relationship overall than those who hadn’t been on a trip together in the last six years.

5. Be flexible. You’ll need a little give and take in your relationship. If you want your partner to do something with you that they are really not interested in, be willing to do something with them that you’re not interested in. Give and take is an excellent way to build intimacy in your relationship.

6. Laugh and Play. Often times when we’ve been with someone for a very long time, we forget about the little things that are still very important. We have more responsibilities, children, work and every day lives, however it’s very important to remember to be playful and laugh in a relationship. Remember how you used to be when you met, how you used to look forward to seeing each other. Being together, laughing and just having fun. Having this in a relationship is important whether you’ve been together 5 months or 15 years.

7. Alone Time. Although it’s really important to have ‘together time’ it’s just as important to have alone time. A healthy, loving relationship is created when each person knows they don’t have to live in the pocket of the other. That pursuing their own interests, having their own friends and creating their own space is as important as the time they have together.

Building a healthy, open loving relationship really isn’t hard. As long as both partners work on open communication and trust they can build a great relationship that involves a healthy level of closeness, intimacy and compatibility.

Hazel Palache is the CEO of Mind Mastery Coaching, home of “Say Yes to YOU Coaching programs. She is the author of award winning best seller, “The Astonishing Power of You,” Simple Steps to Creating an Extra-ordinary Life Hazel is known as The Women Entrepreneurs business coach. She brings 25 plus years experience in the fields of personal development, psychology, spirituality and business development. For more information about Hazel’s services and programs, her free 6 lesson e-course and international Monday Motivator visit http://www.SayYestoYOUCoaching.com To register for her powerful free teleconferences visit http://www.SayYestoYOUCoaching.com/teleclass.html

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Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars, as the old saying goes. Do you ever find it difficult to communicate with your partner because your partner doesn’t seem to understand you? Why not look deeper into yourself to know the root of your fights? If you gain a deeper understanding of yourself (i.e. knowing what you want), you can then re-create intimacy in your relationship.

In this video, George DuWors made a great analogy of a person who is allergic to strawberry shortcake vis-a-vis the communication trap in a relationship.

Communication Trap Number One — Blaming the Strawberry

If you’re married you know how challenging it can be to maintain an intimate relationship with your spouse.  In this busy world, intimacy and relationships often seem miles apart. Here’s a two-part series on Intimacy, Sex and Spirituality in Marriage that might help.

(Part 1)

Excerpt from The Defining Moment Television Talk Show interview with Dr. & Mrs. Dietrich Seidel, Marriage & Family Enrichment Course Instructors in New York. Hosted by Bret Moss.

(Part 2)

Excerpt from The Defining Moment Television Talk Show interview with Dr. & Mrs. Dietrich Seidel, Marriage & Family Enrichment Course Instructors in New York. Hosted by Bret Moss.