Find Ways on How to Rekindle Intimacy in Your Relationship

If your marriage is suffering from lack of intimacy, you and your partner should make an effort to find ways to address and resolve your issues.  Dr. Max Vogt offers advice and solutions on how to keep your marriage intact.

Marital Advice, all Marriage Problems Solved, Save Your Marriage

Marriage Counseling Online. Is online marriage counseling effective? Can this form of relationship counseling and couples counseling actually provide marriage advice you can truly use to have a happy marriage? Famous family therapist Dr. Max Vogt provides best marriage therapy solutions in this video addressing various counseling services.

Tips to Resolving Intimacy Problems in Your Relationship

How do you deal with problems regarding intimacy in your relationship? One way to fix your marital problems is to bring the spark back in your relationship. Spend quality time with each other; remember quality over quantity.

We hope that the article below will give you ideas on how to save your marriage.

4 Tips to Save a Marriage | Boring Marriage

A second tip for reclaiming marital bliss is to take a step back in your relationship and start dating again. Dating each other, that is! Remember what you felt like when you were first dating? Everything was exciting and new. …

A Collection of Monthly Love Quotes to Reinforce Intimacy in Your Relationship

To start your week right, here are quotes on love to inspire you and strengthen intimacy in your relationship. Enjoy!

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver. – Barbara De Angelis

Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring. – Oscar Wilde

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver. – Barbara De Angelis

At the center of nonviolence stands the principle of love.
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection. – Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

What is Love? Know What it Means to Keep Intimacy in your Relationship Strong

What does love mean to you?  It’s important to know what love means to you to be able to focus on what you do want in a relationship, so you can build a stronger and deeper relationship.

Effective Communication Tips to Improve Intimacy in Your Relationship

Open communication is one of the major factors in having a successful relationship.  But how do you successfully communicate with your partner?

We would like to share with you an article below on some of the effective communication tips to improve intimacy in your relationship:

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How to Solve Communication Problems in a Relationship

By Joshua Uebergang

In a relationship, a lot of problems can arise. Everything from incompatibility issues to money to infidelity, being in a relationship can often seem as though you attempting to cross a minefield blindfolded. One of the potentially worst problems that can arise in relationship is poor communication.

Learning to solve communication problems in a relationship is like purchasing insurance against future disaster in any of the other myriad ways a relationship can go wrong. Here is a simple guide to solving communication problems in a relationship.

STOP LOOKING FOR RIGHT AND WRONG

Often, in any fight or disagreement you may have with your partner, it is easy to give in to the temptation to try to be “right” and thus cast your partner as “wrong.” Unfortunately, this type of thinking leads to a complete inability to communicate as your partner then views you as “wrong” and they as “right.” Instead, eschew this dichotomy altogether and put your focus away from blame and toward equitable resolution.

HEAR WHAT YOUR PARTNER IS TRYING TO SAY

One of the biggest problems in any type of communication is the inability or unwillingness of one person not listening to the other, and this is doubly so for marriage relationships. Communication is simply not possible if you or your partner is unable to listen and process what the other is saying. But this can also be a simple fix, as it merely takes effort and focus to do so.

DON’T MANIPULATE OR DECEIVE

Don’t use your words to manipulate your partner, or to deceive them, as this not only prevents genuine relationship communication, it leads to major problem with trust over time. Remember, be as straightforward as possible when trying to communicate with your partner, and do not view it as a method to keep them under your thumb to get what you want.

AVOID SUBTEXT

Along the lines of the previous point, the importance of being straightforward must be reiterated. Say what you mean, and mean what you say is crucial to effectively communicate in relationships (in any meaningful way). Avoid making your partner “read between the lines” of what you are saying to try to figure out what you mean. Your partner isn’t a detective, don’t treat them like one. Be as open and honest with your meaning and intentions as you possibly can, and you will soon have no communication problems in your relationship.

Discover more relationship communication skills for amazing relationships with my communication secrets program.

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What is the Importance of Intimacy in Your Relationship?

Keeping the intimacy in your relationship is important to make your marriage successful.  Intimacy between you and your partner helps reinforce a stronger bond between a couple.

Here’s a great video discussing the importance of intimacy in marriage.  Enjoy!

The Importance Of Intimacy In Marriage

After appearing on the Racheal Ray Show (which can be seen over at www.womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com) I received a lot of emails with questions regarding this topic. Hopefully, this answers a few of them for you!

The 4 Cs in Keeping Intimacy in Your Relationship

Aside from love, what are the other key factors in a successful and happy relationship?  The article below discusses the 4 important Cs in keeping intimacy in your relationship: communication, compatibility, chemistry, and closeness.  Enjoy!

Get the Life You Deserve: The 4 Cs of Relationships

Compatibility: World renowned Dr. Barbara De Angelis points out that “Love is not enough to make a relationship work. It needs compatibility and it needs commitment.” She advises to look for six lasting inner strengths in a partner: …

Collection of Love Quotes on Intimacy in Relationships

To start your week, here is a collection of love quotes to inspire you. Improve the intimacy in your relationships by sharing these moving quotes with your partner.

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All weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.John Berger

Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal. – Louis K. Anspacher

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.Robert C. Dodds

Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.
- Tom Mullen

Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing.Goethe

Is Compatibility Important in Building Intimacy in Your Relationship?

They say that compatibility is important to make a relationship work.  However, being able to adjust to your partner’s flaws is the key to a healthy and loving relationship.

We hope this picture will inspire you in keeping the intimacy in your relationship strong. Enjoy!

How Important is Physical Attraction in Keeping Intimacy in Your Relationship?

Physical attraction may lead to a serious relationship.  However, physical attraction is not the only thing you need to build intimacy into your relationship.  A couple also needs to have emotional connection to be able to keep their relationship strong.

Here’s a great article on the importance of other factors, aside from physical attraction, in maintaining a healthy relationship:

Can a Marriage Built Only on Physical Attraction Be Saved?
By Leslie Cane

I recently heard from a wife who told me that she was pretty sure that her marriage was over. Things had been rough for a few years. But, within the last few days, the husband had finally admitted to her that he was no longer attracted to her. This was perhaps the worst thing that the husband might have said. The wife told me, in part: “hearing that he’s no longer attracted to me is devastating and tells me that my marriage is likely over. Honestly, I believe that his physical attraction to me was most of what brought us together. Personality wise, we’re opposites. Our values and belief systems are mostly different. So, the very strong attraction was really the only thing we had going for us. With that gone, I think we’re in big trouble. Is there any way at all that a marriage that was mostly based on chemistry and attraction can be saved? Because if there is, I’m willing to do just about anything to save it.”

I believe that the vast majorities of marriages can be saved. I draw the line with cases of physical, verbal, or mental abuse. However, most other issues can usually be worked through, at least in my opinion. And many times, the issues that the spouses think is the problem actually isn’t. I suspected the this supposed “lack of physical attraction” ran a little deeper and encompassed other issues. And, this couple had two children who brought them together on a level deeper than any chemistry or attraction possibly could. So, I suspected that the wife was focusing too much on this one issue and neglecting some others. I believed that a shift in focus could make some big changes. I will discuss this more in the following article.

Although The Spouses Involved May Believe That They Married Based On Chemistry and Physical Attraction Alone, This Is Rarely The Case: It’s not unusual for people to tell me that they have a marriage that was based solely upon their attraction to one another. Basically, they think their looks and their chemistry were the only things that they had going for them.

But, often, I turn this around and ask them if they would invest in and then marry someone who looked nearly perfect physically but who had a personality and behaviors that made their skin crawl? Few people would admit to this. Yes, appearance may have been the thing that peaked your interest in the beginning. There is nothing wrong with this. But, if the person’s personality wasn’t at least somewhat pleasing to you, it’s highly unlikely that you would’ve continued on. It would be incredibly hard to find someone physically attractive when, time and time again, their actions and behaviors grated on your nerves or were unattractive to you.

Very few people would describe their spouse as perfect. Generally speaking, there are some attributes that they adore and others that they ultimately embrace because they love their spouse as a whole and know that all of the attributes combined are what makes their spouse who they are and the person that they love so much. There is nothing wrong with this either.

Finally, the way that your spouse makes you feel is reflected in how you see them. Sure, the wife was probably a knock out when they met, but there were likely other things at play here. The most beautiful woman in the world may just appear downright unattractive to her husband if he doesn’t feel understood, loved, and appreciated by her. When two people are deeply connected and bonded, they see the other person through rose colored glasses. They project their positive feelings onto all aspects of the other person (and this includes appearance.) So, I very strongly suspected that the husband was projecting the “rough last couple of years” onto the wife’s looks. I also strongly felt that once the marriage started to drastically improve, he would literally begin to see her in a whole new way and this whole “I no longer find you attractive talk” would stop.

Improving The Marriage In A Way That Focuses On What’s Inside Rather Than On What Is Outside: I know that the wife assumed that she and her husband had nothing else other than attraction and chemistry. I did not believe this to be true. They had two beautiful children that they both adored more than anything in the world. They had a shared business. They had many mutual friends. They had a lot of time and effort invested in their lives together. And they had a home that they had both built. You dont’ build these things if you are invested only in looks.

But, as life became hectic, they had stopped focusing on these things. I did not dialogue directly with the husband, but I would be willing to bet that if I did, he would tell me what the vast majority of men tell me. This is that their wife no longer seems to make the time for them, always seems distracted and negative, and no longer seems to appreciate and understand them. The husband’s frustration with this was likely clouding how he felt about BOTH the way she looked and how she acted.

I felt that if this couple focused and placed their attention on reconnecting and THEN addressed their marital issues (many people try to do this too soon) then she would see a big improvement in the outlook on both of their parts. She was somewhat resistant to this because she was very resentful about her husband’s comments. And now, she felt badly about herself. She told me: “what’s the point? I can do all of these things and he still will think I’m ugly. Why would I put myself out there like this when he’s only going to reject me?”

I asked the wife if she really and truly bought that there were drastic changes in her appearance. She admitted that she was sort of coasting along and not paying as much attention to how she looked, but that deep down, she had to admit that she pretty much looked the same. She wondered if she should make any drastic changes. This was her decision of course, but I did not believe that this was optimal. I often tell people to go for the appearance that is going to make them happy as an individual. If she were to make drastic changes only to please someone else, she was going to resent this.

But if she made some very small and subtle changes that boosted her own confidence, then she might be better able to focus on the marriage and be deliberate about it rather than doubtful. In the end, she just decided to update her wardrobe and change her hair and make up somewhat. She felt very positive about this. And she was beginning to understand that the husband likely didn’t entirely mean what he was saying, although he might believe that the did.

She finally did understand that he was likely projecting his frustration and disappointment on the relationship and then lashing out at the one thing that he knew meant the most to her – which was her appearance. This was likely specifically meant to get the wife’s attention, which it most certainly did.

In short, I believe that any marriage can be saved – even one that was based on physical attraction. But honestly, I very rarely think that this is an entirely accurate characterization.

It took me way too long to realize that I was contributing to this whole unattractive business. It had issues with myself which rubbed off unto him. When I stopped focusing on pleasing him and started focusing on pleasing myself, things changed. Luckily, over time (and taking calculated baby steps), I was able to reestablish intimacy and bring back his love. You can read a very personal story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com.

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